Example of a Mother ('girl child')
Example of a Mother (‘girl child’)

Saying that the ‘girl child’ is the best and biggest after thought by God is stating the obvious! The ‘girl child’  refers to every woman. Women are the biggest driving force to wealth creation and sustenance. Aside the care giving nature of women which makes a lot of them put the welfare of others(their children, siblings, relatives and friends) first. Women as mothers, are the main upholders of the family which is the  most important unit of society.  Mothers are the more active parent in child upbringing thus they get to spend a lot more time with the children, nurturing them physically, shaping them in character  and providing them informal education and good understanding of their environment. You can barely see a successful  man or woman who did not have so much inputs from their mothers. Across different cultures and traditions all over the world mothers are the biggest cheer leaders of their children, they will barely loose faith in their child no matter how badly the situation.





Emotionalism according to www.dictionary.com is 1. Excessive emotional character ; the emotionalism of sentimental  fiction  2.Strong or excess appeal to the emotions; the emotionalism of patriotic propaganda. 3. A tendency to display emotions freely or to rely on or place too much value on emotion; undue display of emotion.




Happy New Month folks!!! Its me Obichukwu again. this is a write -up that has questions that can only be answered by a father and husband who needs to change in order to be a good example to his daughter(s) and an intending father and husband who needs to put in place a good foundation for his marital life.




I choose to write on this topic mainly cause of the male folks, i feel very few men understand and know what PMS is all about. Men need to understand that women do not just “act up” for no reason, and understanding PMS will go long way in helping them relate better with their mothers, sisters, wives and daughters. Remember, this Blog is also centered around the upliftment of the “GIRL CHILD” .   Some of the key symptoms of PMS  which we will see below, go a long way in explaining why women behave in certain ways a lot of the times. Continue reading “UNDERSTANDING; P.M.S(PREMENSTRUAL SYNDROME) IN WOMEN.”



Hello Fam! and compliments of the season!  So I decided to share thoughts from one my books that i value so much. The book is titled     “WHAT KIDS NEED TO SUCCEED” (by – Peter L.  Benson, Ph. D.,  Etal..) The authors of this book came up with a checklist after carrying out a nationwide survey of over 270,000 young people in 600 commuinties in the U. S. A . They are over Twenty of them,  but I proned it down to ten that I feel is suitable  to our environment here in Nigeria. This checklist helps parents identify traits their kids already have and the one they need. Continue reading “CHECKLIST FOR KIDS & PARENTS “



Like i will always say, this is me sharing my thoughts. We all know what is right is right and what is wrong is wrong. This topic  struck me when i visited a relative and i got to see an unpleasant situation. All around you see parents and guardians who feel they can get away with any of their actions cause they are adults. Continue reading “​YOUR CHILDREN FOLLOW YOUR EXAMPLE NOT YOUR ADVICE..”



8 Steps to Homeschool Success
Mother and daughter with homework

PARENTS MUST DEFINE SUCCESS FOR THEIR CHILDREN SO THE WORLD DOES NOT DEFINE IT FOR THEM AND CALL THEM FAILURES. This is one topic that gave me cause to really think deeply. I can’t say I have arrived in life, but I can boldly say that I am not where I used to be and I also cannot say I have all the credentials that defines or points to success. I just want to share my thoughts and understanding as it concerns success, and how parents should see and define it for their children. Continue reading “PARENTS MUST DEFINE SUCCESS FOR THEIR CHILDREN”



Happy family cooking
Happy family cooking together and having fun

Life is generally  ruled by times and seasons, even the holy scripture says a lot about seasons; Eccl. 3 : 1, Luke 21 : 25 – 27….. Nigeria is in a very tough season of hardship and difficulties that will pass away just like the early 80s especially 1983 from my findings. Continue reading “HELPING OUR CHILDREN UNDERSTAND LIFE’S SEASONS – PART 1”




The role of the family as the most important social institution cannot be overemphasized. For me, after God its family…. (Ephesians 3 : 14 – 15). Apart from God, the biggest driver of the family is marriage; i.e husband and wife who now evolve to mother and father(parents). As important as family is, the father and most especially the mother are too important in the family make-up because of their role in shaping the next generation. Continue reading “FAULTY FAMILY ANTECEDENTS & THE ROLE OF PARENTS”




Yeaaaa! this is my first post for the year 2016! and i am really excited about it cause its emphatic, instructive and its from the supreme book of wisdom.  I stumbled on this topic and was  reluctant to publish it, up until this moment. The beauty of this post(RECOMMENDATIONS ON BEING A GOOD HUSBAND AND A GOOD FATHER), is that it has nothing to do with man’s knowledge or wisdom, but solely the wisdom of God, who is the sole patent owner of marriage and family, which a father and a husband is a key actor in. like i’ll always say, whether you are a parent, guardian, aspiring parent, widow, widower, bachelor, spinster etc. Take out time to read this. Continue reading “RECOMMENDATIONS ON BEING A GOOD HUSBAND & A GOOD FATHER”



We all know what the number seven (7) represents and stands for, which is why i decided to go with it. The main aim of this post is to share with our parents on some KEY TRUTHS of child upbringing……

This can be debated, but the key truth is, parents must deliberately spend time with their kids no matter how busy,(especially fathers).



10 Best Educational Websites for Kids

kidswebsite 10 Best Educational Websites for Kids

In these modern times,kids could easily become addicted to technology, especially as they grow older. But we all know that not everything online is good for our children. there are lots of things there that can do them harm. As a parent, your job is to provide your kids with only the safe sites for them to visit. Sites that will give them knowledge at the same time enjoyment. These are the top ten educational websites for kids.

For parents in Africa, click on this link=Emeka Obi-chukwu Ewenike before you go further.

I carefully put in direct links to each of the websites, enjoy it!!

1. PBS Kids – the official website of the PBS channel is perfect to recap all your favorite PBS shows (Clifford, Curious George, SuperWhy, The Cat in the Hat, and a lot more) and also learn by playing their games.  pbskids.org

2. Wonderopolis – is where the wonders of learning never stops. Your children will discover a new fact each day. We all know that children loves to ask bizarre questions. This is the site that can answer them all.  Why are they called Lava Lamps? What Badger has a sweet tooth? A very great informative site. wonderopolis.org

3. National Geographic Little Kids and Kids – official site of National Geographic kids features games, crafts and recipes, science, videos, and animal information. It’s perfect for children 10 and below. kids.nationalgeographic.com

4. Fun Brain – is a great and enjoyable site for children to learn Math as well as some reading stuffs.www.funbrain.com

5. Whyville – Perfect for children 10-15 years old or the tweens. It is a very informative, interactive and enjoyable site – perfect for playing educational games an sozializing. whyville.com

6. Pottermore – for those children who loves Harry Potter, this is the perfect site. Full of interactive features and games plus never before read parts of the HP books. My kids LOVE it and can’t wait for all the books to be on the site (as of the writing, the site only opens four books).  www.pottermore.com

7. Spatulatta – Cooking is one of the most enjoyable and rewarding activity that parents and children can share. This website will help you do just that.  Get into cooking on this kid-friendly cooking website with lots of videos and recipes.  www.spatulatta.com

8. NGA Kids – perfect website for kids who are artful. From the National Gallery of Art. www.nga.gov/kids/kids

9. Yahoo Kids – this is the least educational of all the choices since the site includes both games and videos of all sorts. But, kids can find lots to learn on this interactive website like homework help, learning about science, and access to an encyclopedia. www.tvmuse.com/sites-guide/kids.yahoo.com

10. Nickelodeon – Some nick cartoons get negative feed backs (such as Spongebon) but kids really enjoy them and there are really lessons to be learned in each cartoons. Their website is the same…  

So there you have it, the top 10 sites for kids.  Did I miss your favorite websites? What are they? Comment it here and let us help other parents determine the best sites for their children.  www.nick.com

CREDITS: www.capecodkidz.com



Albert Einstein was one of the prominent persons that had dyslexia
Albert Einstein was one of the prominent persons that had dyslexia

According to the British Dyslexia Association ,Dyslexia is a LEARNING DIFFICULTY that primarily affects the skills involved in accurate and fluent word reading and spelling. B.D.A describes Dyslexia as mainly characterized by;
Difficulties in phonological awareness, verbal memory and verbal processing speed occurring across the range of intellectual abilities. Furthermore; Dyslexia is a specific learning difficulty that mainly affects the development of literacy and language related skills. It is likely to be present at birth and to be life-long in its effects. In addition to these characteristics, the BDA acknowledges the visual and auditory processing difficulties that some individuals with dyslexia experience, and points out that dyslexic readers can show a combination of abilities and difficulties that affect the learning process. Its in the class of ADHD (Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder) and Autism i.e a learning difficulty/disorder. Continue reading “THE MYSTERY OF DYSLEXIA”



11374598_1618569928360161_1023275433_n                                                                                                                                              Having laid a foundation for this topic;(https://savingthechild.wordpress.com/2015/06/19/you-must-shape-a-child-so-you-dont-mend-an-adult-part-1/#more-296 ). I’ll go straight into finalizing this discuss. The mind is the part of a person by which he/she thinks, remembers, desires, perceives, feel, and imagines etc. Continue reading “YOU MUST SHAPE A CHILD SO YOU DON’T MEND AN ADULT- PART 2 (CONCLUSION)”


You Must Shape A Child, So You Don’t Mend an Adult- Part 1


There is so much wisdom and direction in the holy book especially as it concerns this topic; ” Train up a child in a way it should go (and in keeping with his individual gift or bent) and when he is old he will not depart from it” – Prov. 22 v 6(amp). From this portion of scriptures, there are two key words that are emphatic; ‘Train up’ and ‘go’, to me these two represent a process. Continue reading “You Must Shape A Child, So You Don’t Mend an Adult- Part 1”


Baby mama & Baby Daddy, Where did we go wrong ?


      I was going through one of the top entertainment blogs, and I came across a statement made by a celebrated Nigerian musician. He said ” Making babies is not a product of marriage, but of love”. In shock, I asked myself what is the best way for babies to be made if not through marriage? Continue reading “Baby mama & Baby Daddy, Where did we go wrong ?”


What Do Our Children know About Love?


Children cannot be left out in the discuss of Love, as I think they even deserve more love, than any other group of people. The main focus is, how many of our adults have a proper understanding of love and what it really means? by so doing being examples to our children. We must celebrate love, not just romantic love, but love in and for all it stands for.
Continue reading “What Do Our Children know About Love?”




Afro-Pessimism refers to the perception of sub-saharan Africa as a region too riddled with problems of good governance and economic development. (science. jrank.org/pages/7475/AfroPessimism). I will define it literally, “AFRO” means Africa/African or black people. “PESSIMISM” means a mind fixed on expecting the worst, a belief that bad will happen. Afro-Pessimism is largely associated with the feeling of inferiority and the thought that Africa will never attain greater heights.
According to Daryl Zizwe Poe; The term ” AFRO-PESSIMISM” describes a breed of African thinkers that have accepted defeat and have lost the ability to imagine the resurrected African personality.

This write-up is focused on the African child. A large number of African children grow up to deal with poverty, tribalism , ethnicity, war and conflict etc. Even though these problems have huge negative effects, I see Afro-Pessimism as one of the key social issues facing the African personality. African children should be brought up with a mind absent of Afro-Pessimism, and the responsibilty lies on parents (mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles, guardian etc.)

★ The African child should be provided with quality education, and be taught how to balance informal and formal education.

★ The African child should be taught that no matter what he/she is going through they should hope and work for the best.

★ The African child should grow with Afro-optimism as a virtue, positive mindset, strong will, faith and self-confidence.

★ The African child should be made to understand that Africa is behind other continents in terms of development, and he/she has the value and capacity to change that.

★ The African child should be taught that leadership is rooted in service and integrity, and that it starts from your small corner.

★ They should be told that politics is all about service and stewardship.

★ They should be given reasons why Africa I will lead the world very soon.

★ They should be taught that wherever in the world they find themselves, they should be ambassadors of Africa, they should be humble, and carry themselves with pride , self respect and dignity.

★ They should be taught to respect peoples choices, and be mobilizers for social development.

There are so many things the African child should know and must be taught, but above all;
★The African child should be shown and taught to be a lover and also be shown how to love even when they don’t get it in return, they should be taught to pursue peace with all men

Picture credit: Google.com




“Do everything to always make children smile and be happy,  but  EDUCATION is the first thing you should give them,  whether or not they are related to you”….. Emeka Ewenike
…..WATCH OUT FOR THAT NAME…… Children and Women activist

Check out more exciting pictures. Continue reading “PICTURES TO MAKE YOU SMILE & PONDER (PART 3)”


Isabel Aghahowa; Example of good parenting

Julius and Isabel aghahowa

Julius and Isabel aghahowa

The daughter of former Super Eagles ace striker Julius Aghahowa , Isabel Aghahowa, recently released her first book – a work of fiction titled The ‘Ellegers'(165 pages) and she’s just 13years old. The beauty and brain is studying in the UK, and is also a budding actress.

The key thing about this news, is that; julius and his wife deliberately choose to invest in the Education of their daughter, and see what it has resulted to, we can only imagine what she’ll turn out to by age 18. Intending parents must plan for there unborn children, as there are a thousand and one saving schemes that can be put to use, while parents must show lots of sacrifice to guarantee quality education for their children. Parents and intending Parents have no excuse not to provide quality education for your children as its the biggest inheritance you can bequeath for them, and it does not matter if its a male or female child, they all can succeed in any and everything.

Isabel and the Book cover

Isabel and the Book cover

SOURCE: lindaikeji.blogspot.com.


PRAYERS!!! for Four-year-old Omonigho Abraham

Omonigbo before and after the attack

Omonigbo before and after the attack

Brothers and Sisters irrespective of your religion or creed, let’s all take out time to pray for this young lad. Four-year-old Omonigho Abraham is currently battling for his life at the Lagos State University Teaching Hospital, Ikeja, after his scalp was eaten by two dogs.

The dogs chewed the skin and exposed the victim’s skull during the attack which happened on Thursday on Adegboyega Street, Akesan Estate, in the Igando area of Lagos.

PUNCH Metro had reported last week that the police arrested the two dogs for attacking Omonigho. Follow this link for more details http://www.punchng.com/news/269120/



As i continue on the values series, I’d like us to look at this topic. Through spoken words this beautiful world was created; Gen. 1 v 3. Make your children understand the importance of speaking and confessing the right (positive, lively, loving, and nice ) words and affirming; Prov. 22 v 6 Continue reading “POSITIVE SPEAKING & AFFIRMATION”


Things You Need to Know About Child Molesters

What is the profile of a child molester? An average child molester will offend several times before being caught, if ever. The vast majority of offenders do not get caught, and they have no criminal records. According to the investigations, only one out of ten cases of child sexual abuse is reported to law enforcement. Continue reading “Things You Need to Know About Child Molesters”


Should You Have Your Unborn Children in Mind, Before You Marry That Man or Woman ?By Emeka Ewenike(social worker)

I say YES ! There’s an Igbo parable that says “Be friends with the right opposite sex because of marriage”. I say not just because of marriage, but because of your unborn children.
Continue reading “Should You Have Your Unborn Children in Mind, Before You Marry That Man or Woman ?By Emeka Ewenike(social worker)”


MOTHERS! (Quotes that celebrates mothers)

If you’re looking you’re looking for a ride or die friend in your life, I guess your mom is late
~ Emeka Ewenike

A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts. ~Washington Irving

No language can express the power, and beauty, and heroism, and majesty of a mother’s love. It shrinks not where man cowers, and grows stronger where man faints, and over wastes of worldly fortunes sends the radiance of its quenchless fidelity like a star. ~Edwin Hubbell Chapin

A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie. ~Tenneva Jordan

Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field, since the payment is pure love. ~Mildred B. Vermont

If the whole world were put into one scale, and my mother in the other, the whole world would kick the beam. ~Lord Langdale (Henry Bickersteth)

I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life. ~Abraham Lincoln

Some mothers are kissing mothers and some are scolding mothers, but it is love just the same, and most mothers kiss and scold together. ~Pearl S. Buck

If you have a mom, there is nowhere you are likely to go where a prayer has not already been. ~Robert Brault, rbrault.blogspot.com

Women’s Liberation is just a lot of foolishness. It’s the men who are discriminated against. They can’t bear children. And no one’s likely to do anything about that. ~Golda Meir

The real religion of the world comes from women much more than from men — from mothers most of all, who carry the key of our souls in their bosoms. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes

The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness. ~Honoré de Balzac

She never quite leaves her children at home, even when she doesn’t take them along. ~Margaret Culkin Banning

An ounce of mother is worth a pound of clergy. ~Spanish Proverb

Thou art thy mother’s glass, and she in thee
Calls back the lovely April of her prime.
~William Shakespeare

When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. ~Sophia Loren, Women and Beauty

If evolution really works, how come mothers only have two hands? ~Milton Berle

Motherhood is priced
Of God, at price no man may dare
To lessen or misunderstand.
~Helen Hunt Jackson

Mothers are fonder than fathers of their children because they are more certain they are their own. ~Aristotle

Women are aristocrats, and it is always the mother who makes us feel that we belong to the better sort. ~John Lancaster Spalding

Motherhood has a very humanizing effect. Everything gets reduced to essentials. ~Meryl Streep

The sweetest sounds to mortals given
Are heard in Mother, Home, and Heaven.
~William Goldsmith Brown

The formative period for building character for eternity is in the nursery. The mother is queen of that realm and sways a scepter more potent than that of kings or priests. ~Author Unknown

Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible. ~Marion C. Garretty, quoted in A Little Spoonful of Chicken Soup for the Mother’s Soul

[A] mother is one to whom you hurry when you are troubled. ~Emily Dickinson

source: quotegarden.com



I was tempted to say “happy children’s day” no! no! If I’m given the right to change that phrase, i’ll change it to “happy children’s century/millenium…….” Shame to any adult that only remembers to honour or pay tribute to the golden generation on 27th may . They say they are the future, i say they are much more. They are the past, present and future, they reflect us, they better us, they succeed us. Children are the GOLDEN GENERATION!


Dorothy Law Nolte writes:

If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn,

If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight,

If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy,

If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty,

If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient,

If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident,

If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate,

If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice,

If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith,

If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself,

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,

He learns to find love in the world.

Adults; whether as mother or father or aunty or uncle or teacher or guardian etc, must be conscious of what should be done and what should not be done around our children, because we directly and indirectly shape their lives



A survey carried out in the prisons of America showed Over 95% of the incarcerated criminals had no FATHER INFLUENCE. Coincidence? No. Male crisis? Yes. If we should worry about anything today, it is not the economy or 2015 elections. Just as we worry about boko haram(bring back our girls), we should also worry about the trending scarcity of real men.

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